James F. “Fred” Hale

Auburn, ME – James Frederick “Fred” Hale born June 27, 1932, died Friday the 26th of June 2015.  He was 82 years old. 11 months, 30 days and 23 hours old.  Fred leaves behind his wife of 34 years, Marie; his four children, James and his wife Cathryn of Georgia, Joanne of Portland, Sarah and her partner David of California, and Ryan and her husband Bennett of Maryland; his siblings Maryanne and her husband Jack of Belfast, Byron of Bangor, and Linda of Belgrade Lakes; a granddaughter Holly of Georgia; his cousin Evelyn and husband Gerry of Warren; and many nieces and nephews.  He was predeceased by his father James Elliott, his stepmother Barbara, his mother Evelyn Bryant, his sister Lois Tribble and brother James Elliott Hale. 

Fred graduated from Camden High School in 1950 where he was class President, and after serving in the Navy Seabees he enrolled in Boston University where he majored in business administration.  Fred worked for many companies throughout New England and New York, including the Camden-Rockland Water Company for 18 years.  He began his career with the United States Postal Service in 1982 where his job took him to many offices in Maine.  He became Postmaster in Orr’s Island before retiring in 2000. 

Fred was a very proud to be a Mason.  He was raised by the Boston University Lodge in 1957 and was affiliated member of the Ancient York Lodge 155 A.F.A.M. in Lisbon Falls.  He was also a member of the Androscoggin Valley of the Scottish Rites and Consistory in Portland.  In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to either the Hospice House at 236 Stetson Road Auburn, ME 040240 or the Ancient York Lodge 155 scholarship fund in care of Toby D. Williams P.M., 72 Summer Street, Lisbon Falls, ME 04252 or go have an ice cream and think of Fred. 

A memorial service will be held Thursday, July 2, 2015 at the Ancient York Lodge in Lisbon Falls at 2 p.m.

Margaret E. (Curit) Haydt

Portland, ME — Margaret Elizabeth Haydt, 69, of Portland passed peacefully on June 20, 2015. Peg was predeceased by her loving husband Ken in 1989. Survived by her daughters, Kathryn Washburn and her fiancé Adam of Holden, and Kimberley Fogg and her husband Duane of Gray; grandchildren: James Robinson, Ashley Cyr, Danielle Fogg, Makenzie Washburn, Devin Fogg and Delia Fogg; great-grandchildren: Gabe, Savannah and Jenna-Lynn; along with many extended family members.

Peg was born in Portland, the daughter of Walter and Eleanor Curit. She is a 1964 graduate of Deering High School. After marrying Ken, her traveling adventures started, living in Alaska and Maryland; while traveling across country.  She always considered Maine to be her home.   Peg loved animals, crafts, reading, playing cards, puzzles, most of all she loved her time with her family. She enjoyed attending a variety of events for her grandchildren from football games, cheering competitions to school concerts. She will always be remembered as a loving mother and grandmother and whose greatest joy was her family and friends.

At Peg’s request, no services will be held.  A celebration of life may be held at a later date.  

In lieu of flowers, donations in her honor may be made to:

Animal Refuge League

449 Stroudwater St.

Westbrook, ME 04092

Susan J. (Smith) Sharp

Freeport, ME – Susan J. (Smith) Sharp, 58, of Freeport died unexpectedly at her home on Monday, June 8, 2015. 

She was born on October 27, 1956 in Farmington, ME a daughter of the late Carl M. & Rose (Baker) Smith.  She grew up in Yarmouth, attending local area schools and graduated from Yarmouth High School. 

Susan worked as a waitress for various restaurants during her life and also volunteered at The Freeport Community Services.  She enjoyed gardening, cooking, crafts, card games, outdoor activities, bowling, and decorating and going to yard sales.  Her greatest joy however, was spending time with her family. 

She is survived by her daughter Melissa S. Gray of Saco, her son James H. Sharp of Fort Myers, her other daughter Angela R. Abourjaily and her husband Karl of Windham.  She also leaves her sister Carla Smith of Naples, FL and her brother Stephen Smith and his wife Gayle of Yarmouth as well as several nieces and nephews. 

Services will be private. 

In lieu of flowers, donations in her memory can be made to:

Freeport Community Center

53 Depot Street

 

Freeport, ME 04032

Leo Darrell Dyer

Steep Falls- Leo Darrell Dyer, 63, of Westbrook, passed away at his home on Tuesday, June 9th, 2015.  Leo was born a son of the late William and Anna (Beach) Dyer, on June 30th, 1950. 

Leo enjoyed watching TV, sharing stories from his extraordinary life experiences, going traveling or just simply for a ride.  Leo wanted to live the simple life and enjoy doing it.  He worked at various restaurants around the Portland Area, including DiMillo’s and Ri-Re.

Leo is survived by his son; David and his wife Nuria Dyer, two step daughters; Sara Wood and her partner Brian Santamore, and Rayne and her husband Aaron Mallory; a step son, Joseph Lewis; and many other grandchildren, aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, cousins, and close friends.

There will be a gathering at the Eastern Prom at 1:00 pm, on Sunday June 14th, 2015 where everyone will then travel to the celebration of life at the Wood resistance at 15 Market Street, Saco, ME.

In lieu of flowers, memorial donations can be made in Leo’s name to your local fire department.

Themed Cremation Packages

Many of the families we serve choose to have a unique and personal type of service for their loved one.  They choose to do something at home, or “up to camp”, or on the ocean, with the common theme being to celebrate the persons life instead of mourn their death.  So with that in mind, we have come up with several themed cremation packages, packages that give our families all the pieces needed to be able to plan such a celebration on their own; each one focused on the personality of the person who has passed.  From a veteran, to someone who loves sports or the outdoors, to someone who was conservation minded, we make things as simple as possible for those left behind.

 

Veterans ~ $1,695.00 (Save $95.00)

 

Includes:

~ Cremation

~ Choice of urn

~ Flag Case

~ Stationary Package Deluxe (register book, 50 thank you
               cards, 100 service folders, candle and 6 laminated
               obituaries)

 

 

 

 

Religious ~ $1,895.00 (Save $90.00)

 

Includes:

~ Cremation

~ Choice of urn

~ Floral Allowance

~ Memorial Candle  

~ Crucifix

~ Keepsake

~ Stationary Package (register book, 50 thank you
                cards and 100 service folders)

 

 

Classic ~ $1,750.00 (Save $50.00)

 

Includes:

~ Cremation

~ Choice of urn

~ Floral Allowance

~ Memorial Candle

~ Laminated Obituary / Bookmarks (2 sheets)

 

 

 

 

Ocean ~ $1,695.00 (Save $140.00)

 

Includes:

~ Cremation

~ Choice of urn

~ Choice of Sea Turtle or Sea Star Keepsake

~ Choice of cremation pendant (anchor/seahorse/crab)

~ Stationary Package (register book, 50 thank you
                cards and 100 service folders)

 

 

 

Fishing ~ $1,750.00 (save $100.00)

 

 

Includes:

~ Cremation

~ Urn

~ Memorial Candle

~ Choice of Cremation pendant (fish hook/bullet)

~ Stationary Package (register book, 50 thank you
                cards and 100 service folders)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hunting ~ $1,695.00 (Save $80.00)

 

 

Includes:

~ Cremation

~ Urn

~ Candle

~ Choice of Cremation pendant (two bullet styles)

~ Stationary Package (register book, 50 thank you
                cards and 100 service folders)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Baseball ~ $2,175.00 (Save $80.00)

 

 

Includes:

~ Cremation

~ Urn

~ Candle

~ Choice of Cremation pendant 

~ Stationary Package (register book, 50 thank you
                cards and 100 service folders)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Football ~ $1,775.00 (Save $75.00)

 

  

Includes:

~ Cremation

~ Urn

~ Candle

~ Cremation pendant 

~ Stationary Package (register book, 50 thank you
                cards and 100 service folders)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gardener ~ $1,995.00 (Save $130.00) 

 

 

Includes:

~ Cremation

~ Choice of urn

~ Rose Keepsake 

~ Floral Allowance

~ Stationary Package Deluxe (register book, 50 thank you cards, 100 service folders, candle and 6 laminated obituaries)

 

  

 

Crafter ~ $1,710.00  (Save $100.00)

 

 

Includes:

~ Cremation

~ Choice of urn

~ Tealight candle keepsake

~ Floral Allowance

~ Candle

~ Stationary Package (register book, 50 thank you 
                cards and 100 service folders)

 

 

Camper/Outdoors ~ $1,650.00 (Save $50.00)

 

 

Includes:

~ Cremation

~ Choice of urn

~ Candle

~ Stationary Package (register book, 50 thank you
               cards and 100 service folders)

 

 

 

 

Conservationist #1 ~ $1,550.00 (Save $60.00)

 

 

Includes:

~ Cremation

~ Choice of urn

~ Stationary Package (register book, 50 thank you 

                cards and 100 service folders)

 

 

 

 

Conservationist #2 ~ $1,775.00 (Save $100.00) 

 

 

Includes:

~ Cremation

~ Choice of urn

~ Stationary Package Deluxe (register book, 50 thank you
               cards, 100 service folders, candle and 6 laminated
               obituaries)

 

 

Barbara E. (Martin) Case

Biddeford, ME – Barbara E. (Martin) Case, 71, of Biddeford died on Monday, June 8, 2015 at her home, surrounded by her family.  She was the wife of the late Allen B. Case, who died earlier this year. 

She was born in Boston, MA on August 17, 1943 a daughter of the late Frederick W. & Barbara (Burham) Martin.  She grew up and attended schools in South Boston, including Gavin Middle School. 

Barbara was a stay at home to her children and a member of the VFW Post.  She enjoyed the simple things life, which included of all things cleaning; she also truly loved spending time and caring for family and friends. 

She is survived by her children Suzanne McQueen and her husband Wayne, Lulu Prince and her husband Larry, James Stuart and his wife Donna, Kathy Tarlowski and her husband Ed and Patricia Litcher and her husband David.  She also leaves her grandchildren Wayne P. McQueen Jr., Ryan S. McQueen, Kenneth E. McQueen, Heidi Dawn Stuart, Crystal Blair Prince, Tylor Stuart, Kyle Stuart, Trevor E. Tarlowski, Ryan P. Rogers, Madison Litcher and Aubree Litcher, as well as great grandchildren Kairlye J. McQueen, Devlin R. McQueen and Katelyn McQueen, her sisters Mary A. Martin and Carol A. Levine and many, many nieces and nephews. She was also a sister of the late Fred Martin, Bev A. Egan and Tommy Martin. 

Relatives and friends are invited to attend a Mass of Christian Burial on Saturday, Jun 13, 2015 at 10 a.m. at Blessed Mother Teresa of Calcutta Parish aka St. Margaret’s, 800 Columbia Road Dorchester, MA. 

In lieu of flowers, donations in her memory can be made to:

The Barbara Case Memorial Fund

c/o Mary Martin

81 Orton marotta Way #3080

South Boston, MA 02127

When a Death Occurs

What to bring with you to the funeral home

 

There are a number of items that you will need to bring to the funeral home in the days before the funeral service. Bringing as much as possible with you to the arrangement conference will help with the planning process.

 

  • A photo of your loved one to use in their online obituary.
  • Paperwork:

 

  • General information about the deceased (birth date, city and state of birth, Social Security number, parent’s names, educational institutions, marital status)
  • Copies of life insurance policies
  • Military discharge papers (DD 214 form) if applicable
  • Cemetery paperwork if applicable
  • Funeral prearrangement paperwork if applicable

 

  • Personal effects:

 

  • Clothing, undergarments, shoes, glasses (if applicable) and jewelry for your loved one

 

What to expect at the funeral arrangement conference:

The funeral arrangement conference is the primary planning session for the funeral services for your loved one. Our staff will be in communication with you during the days leading up to your services, to finalize many details, but the majority of decisions will be made at this conference.

You can expect to be at the arrangement conference for approximately one and a half to two hours. During this time we will assist you in creating a service that truly reflects and honors the life of your loved one. We will also help you with selecting merchandise and developing an online memorial to your loved one. Finally, we will discuss your wishes regarding cemetery property and a marker or monument.

Some families choose to have one or two family representatives attend the conference, while other families prefer that everyone be present. We can accommodate whatever meets your needs. If you plan to have more than six family members attending, please let us know in advance so we will be prepared for your arrival.

Many of the details covered in the arrangement conference can be taken care of in advance. Our staff is available to sit down and discuss your wishes ahead of time, whenever is convenient for you. Often, when a death is considered to be imminent by medical professionals, a family will come in to the funeral home and make their selections, reducing the number of decisions that need to be made after the death occurs. For more information, please see our advance planning section.

Applying for benefits

 

Our staff will file a notice with Social Security that your loved one has died. Please provide your funeral director with your loved one’s Social Security number to begin the process. After the notification, you should contact Social Security to discuss benefits for you and your family. They can be reached at 1-800-772-1213. To speak with a representative, please be sure to call between 7 a.m. and 7 p.m., Monday through Friday.

Benefits vary by a number of conditions, including the age and relation of the surviving family members, and can also change over time. Please review the information and instructions at the Social Security website, www.SocialSecurity.gov for the most up-to-date information.

Veterans, please see our veteran’s benefits page

Filing paperwork with banks, utilities and more.

After the death of a loved one, many families are surprised by the number of individuals and organizations that must be notified in order to claim benefits, change billing addresses or end services

Some of these entities include your loved one’s bank, credit card provider, church, accountant, attorney, estate executor, home, life and health insurance providers, utility companies, phone company, home maintenance providers, physician, dentist, newspaper and magazine subscription offices and government agencies such as the Social Security Administration, the Department of Motor Vehicles, the US Postal Service, Veterans Administration and the voters’ registration office, and many others.

This can be an overwhelming task, and it can be difficult to know where to start. Our staff can provide you with a Resource Guide with sample letters to all of these entities to assist you in the notifications. The Guide is available in paper or CD format. It will help you work through all of the notifications in an orderly manner, streamlining the process.

You will need a certified copy of your loved one’s death certificate in order to make many of these notifications. Our staff will take care of ordering the certificates from the Office of Vital Statistics and notify you when they are ready. A photo copy of the certificate is often enough for many organizations, but we recommend obtaining several certified copies as a precaution. We can also order more copies to you in the future if necessary.

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Veterans

Military funeral honors

Every eligible veteran is entitled to a military funeral honors ceremony at their funeral or memorial service. The ceremony serves as a final tribute and thank-you from a grateful nation for the veteran’s service.

The military funeral honors ceremony is conducted by two or more uniformed military persons, with at least one member of the veteran’s branch of service. The service includes folding and presenting the United States burial flag to a surviving family member and the playing of Taps.

Our funeral directors will assist you with arranging this special ceremony through a local veteran’s organization. Please click the links below for more information.

Applying for veterans benefits

In recognition of their service and dedication to our country, burial and cemetery benefits are available for each eligible veteran.

These benefits include a military funeral honors ceremony at a funeral or memorial service, a burial flag, burial at a national veterans’ cemetery or a monetary benefit towards burial at a private cemetery, and a veterans’ cemetery marker.  Our staff will work with the Veterans Administration to assist you in obtaining these benefits. If you would like more information, please click the links below.

 

 

 

Veterans cemetery markers

The Department of Veterans Affairs provides a government headstone or marker for any eligible veteran at no cost.

Flat bronze, marble and granite markers are available, along with granite or marble upright monuments and bronze plaques to mark the inurnment of cremated remains. The style of marker selected must meet with the approval of the cemetery in which it is placed. Our staff will assist the family with ordering the marker and placing it in the cemetery of their choice.

 

Presidential Memorial Certificate

The family of an honorably discharged veteran may receive special Presidential Memorial Certificates in honor of their loved one’s service.

The engraved certificate is signed by the current President to honor the service and memory of the veteran.

 

A certificate can be ordered for each family member. Our funeral directors will work with the Department of Veterans Affairs to obtain the certificates.

 

The Veterans History Project

The Veterans History Project was established in 2000, and is run by the American Folklife Center of the Library of Congress. It was created to collect, preserve and make accessible the personal accounts of American war veterans, to help future generations of Americans better understand the realities of war and hear directly from veterans who experienced them.

 

The Project collects audio and video-taped interviews, written memoirs, photographs, correspondence and artwork to tell the story of veterans and citizens who were actively involved in war efforts from World War I to conflicts today.

We believe that the memories of each veteran are a precious treasure, and encourage the families of veterans to record their stories and preserve their memorabilia with the Veterans History Project.

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Funeral Etiquette

What is the difference between a funeral & a memorial service?

A funeral and memorial service both serve the same purpose – to honor and celebrate the life of your loved one with friends and family. The term “funeral service” refers to a gathering where the body of your loved one is present, giving guests and family the opportunity to say a final goodbye in person. This service is normally held within a week of the death.

A “memorial service” is held without the body present, and can be held at any point after the death. Memorial services can be held after cremation takes place, or after burial takes place in a private ceremony. Sometimes more than one memorial service is held if a large number of family members or friends live out-of-state, or if the deceased had special ties to another community.

 

Why should I have a ceremony at all?

A ceremony is a time for family and friends to gather and pay tribute to your loved one. While nothing can take away the pain of your loss, it can be comforting to see the impact that your loved one had on friends, classmates, co-workers, and others in the community. In difficult times, it can be consoling to rely on traditional expressions of grief and loss that a funeral provides. Watching the memorial video and listening to speakers and special music allows you to focus on your loved one’s life, rather than their death.

It is It is often said that the funeral service is really for the living. A ceremony serves not as a clichéd point of closure, but as a milestone in your life after the passing of your loved one.

 

What do I do at a visitation?

A formal visitation provides a time and place for you to offer the family your expression of sorrow and sympathy. Visitation is typically held at the funeral home, and the deceased is typically present so that you can pay your last respects.

When you arrive, go to the family and express your sympathy. If you were an acquaintance of the deceased, but not well-known to the family, immediately introduce yourself. Conversation about the deceased is natural, as is crying.

If offered by the family, it is customary, but not mandatory, to show your respects by viewing the deceased and, if you desire, spending a few moments in silent prayer.

Always sign the guest book using your full name, and if you were a business associate of the deceased, note your company affiliation.

 

Should children attend funerals?

Children who were close to the deceased should be given the option to attend visitation and the funeral service. Death has become somewhat of a taboo subject in our society and there is a tendency to not talk about it. Often, because we know the pain and sadness, we want to protect our children, sometimes to the point that we don’t tell them about a death.

But, there is no question that a death disrupts a family’s life, and all family members are affected. Children can sense that something is wrong and they will experience grief one way or another. Attending the funeral or having the funeral process described to them by a parent or close family member involves them in what the rest of the family is experiencing. Most children can understand that a funeral is a time to say good-bye.

If a child attends a funeral, an explanation of what will happen before, during, and after the ceremony is important. Children should also be made aware that they will see people expressing a wide range of emotions in expressing their feelings.

 

What does it mean when the funeral is “private”?

This type of service is generally held for family members and close friends, and is by invitation only. Sometimes a visitation is held for friends and other associates to come and pay their respects. Cards and other expressions of sympathy are always appreciated, and should be sent to the funeral home or the family’s home.

 

How long should I stay at a visitation?

The amount of time you spend at a visitation is discretionary. Once you have expressed your sympathy to each member of the family and spoken a few moments to those you know well, it is acceptable to leave, although you may wish to stay longer.

 

What is appropriate dress for visitations and funerals?

It is no longer necessary to wear black when you go to a funeral. Dress should be conservative and should be selected to indicate dignity and respect for the family and the deceased.

 

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